The first year of your relationship can clue you in to how your relationship is going to be long-term. Making it to the one-year mark with someone isn’t always easy. There are so many uncomfortable things you have to go through together to make sure you’re equally in it for the long haul. According to experts, there are some essential things to do in the first year of a relationship if you want it to last.
“Couples often spend a great deal of time attending to the reasons why relationships fail but spend too little time thinking about how they can make new relationships succeed,” Dr. Michael Reitano, the physician in residence at sexual health startup Roman, tells Bustle.
Things like chemistry and intense sexual attraction can only get you so far. Old-school relationship advice that tells you to be unavailable in order to create more intrigue may seem interesting to some people. But that isn’t going to make your relationship last long-term.
“At the very core, you can likely tell that your relationship will last long-term if there’s a safe space between you to be vulnerable and open,” Daniela VillaRamos, relationship expert and founder of Once Upon a Vow, tells Bustle. It may not happen overnight. It may not happen in the first month or even three months into your relationship. If you work toward opening yourself up to your partner over the first year, VillaRamos says you can have intimacy, deep trust, respect, and appreciation for each other.
But that’s just the first thing. So here are some other things you might want to do in your first year if you want your relationship to last.